It has been about three days since the world observed White Ribbon Day. On this day, all men are supposed to feel guilt for the assaults of a small minority of men against women whilst at the same time ignoring the growing problem of female violence against men. One thing I noted on the day was the lack of apparent support for the whole WR concept. In my rural city, a parade was held in the main street (which, of course, disrupted traffic and inconvenienced traders) to support the bullshit concept that man are by default abusers of women. Fortunately, most people I have spoken to don’t place any great amount of credibility in WR and nor should they. From this I can only conclude that not only do most men not support the WR campaign but a lot of women don’t either. The whole WR movement is based on exaggerations and outright lies that demonise the male sex and sanctify females. Why should anyone give credence to such a fraudulent campaign? I have listed below the various fallacies underlying the WR movement. These alone should discourage anyone from participating in such a fraudulent movement……
a) The WR movement aims to paint all men as violent. The whole aim of the WR movement is to create the illusion that all men are violent monsters who like nothing more than to hurt women. Nothing can be further from the truth; in reality, very few men are violent. This doesn’t stop the WR movement from smearing the entire male sex with the sins of a few. Whilst I certainly agree that all men who are violent should be held to account, I take great offence to myself being labelled as violent or potentially violent as a default based on my sex.
b) The WR movement ignores the reality that women can be violent against men. Following on from the above point, there are in fact women in society that think it is their right to assault men. The WR campaign has never acknowledged this. Figures thrown about suggest that 800,000 women experience domestic violence in Australia every year (this is bullshit based on greatly exaggerated definitions of domestic violence but let’s work with it here). If we assume that 1 in 3 victims of domestic violence are men, then there is something like 266,000 men on the receiving end of violence from women. That equals a lot of abusive females down under. Until the WR recognises that women are just as capable of violence as men, their movement deserves to be treated as a joke.
c) The WR movement focuses on male violence against women only. This is despite the fact that men are more likely to be recipients of violence in general and women are more likely to be assaulted by another woman than they are by a man. If the WR movement expects men to stand up for female victims of violence then they need to start standing up for male victims of violence. After all, why is violence against men seen as a lesser issue than violence against women? The insinuation of the WR philosophy seems to be that ridding the world of violence against women is all that matters and that men can go help themselves. Sorry, but the world doesn’t work like that. If women expect men to care about them, then women need to start caring about men. The WR movement would gain a lot more credibility if it campaigned against violence towards all people. Until it does so, no man should support WR.
d) Violence against women has been refined to include many occurrences that of themselves are not violence. Violence is when someone is physically hurt – end of story, period. Violence is not when someone is yelled at, threatened or deprived of money they have not earned. At least, this is true if the person on the receiving end is a man. For women, a whole different set of rules apply. In regards to women, any behaviours that cause them to feel threatened in the slightest are defined as violence – more so when the person who allegedly displayed the behaviours happens to be male. Given that most women are paranoid about men, this is a worrying trend indeed. As it stands, any man who has even the slightest disagreement with a woman can be accused of violence towards the said woman. Never mind that women pick fights with men over the slightest and most trivial issues (ask me how I know), if a man puts up any form of resistance, a woman has the power to label him as violent and abusive. Many men have been on the receiving end of domestic violence orders as a result of such idiotic reasoning. Sadly, the WR movement supports this systematic persecution of the male gender.
e) The WR movement ignores women’s own agency – even if inadvertent – in becoming victims of domestic violence. Large numbers of women are attracted to violent and abusive men. This is evidenced by the fact that men imprisoned for the most heinous of crimes receive endless letters from women professing their love for them. Whilst there is a group of men in society who indeed are violent towards women and others in general, it would seem that women are disproportionately attracted to such men. This in no way exonerates violent men from their actions. However, if women are going to associate with violent men and stay with them even after having being on the receiving end of violence, then women’s very self-agency comes into question. Personally, if I came across someone who impressed me as being particularly dangerous, I would steer clear of them at all costs. I am sure most men would employ the same logic. For whatever reason, many women seem oblivious to this and willingly place their wellbeing in the hands of men who are not only disposed to abuse women but whom have a history of dong it. As someone once said to me, “When it comes to a particular man, a woman is only the victim of domestic violence the first time it happens. After that, she is a willing participant”. Enough said. Women need to be educated to understand that they have a large amount of influence over themselves becoming victims of male violence by the choice of men they choose to associate with. Where the WR movement falls down is that they never hold women to account in this area.
f) The White Ribbon movement refuses to acknowledge that women are often on the receiving end of violence that they initiated. Youtube is full of videos of women getting knocked senseless after abusing another person in the first instance. Such female-initiated abuse can take a variety of forms from verbal insults to physical assault. In all the vids I have seen of women eventually getting a dose of their own medicine, the common theme is that women seem to believe they can abuse others to their hearts content and no one will retaliate because they are women. Big newsflash: being woman doesn’t mean shit in the modern era; we live in an era of supposed equality. I say supposed because with most modern women, equality is only equality when it suits them. In reality, if anyone is idiotic to walk up to another person who is bigger and stronger than them and start being abusive they deserve whatever they get. Yet, this is exactly what many women do when dealing with men and they wonder why they end up getting the fuck punched out of them. If the White Ribbon movement were serious about reducing male violence towards women, they would focus on reducing female abuse of men that often triggers it.
The above is but a brief list of the failings of the WR philosophy. Given this, it is hardly surprising that few people actually support the WR movement. Any movement that aims to demonise an entire group in society for the actions of a few is bound to be treated with the contempt most rational people have for the WR movement. The tragedy of this is that if the WR were to target actual violence in general instead of persecuting the male gender, it is likely that actual positive outcomes might be achieved. As things stand, the WR movement is rightly seen as a bunch man-hating feminists and their mangina lackeys baying for the blood of the average, peaceful man.